​Caring Kink Workshops

Conscious Kink Workshops for All Experience Levels in Bristol, Every Month during autumn, winter and spring.

I craft spaces that are safer, more inclusive and focused on fun - to allow you to explore your shadows, your edges and play with your innocent 'playful- desires'.

Upcoming Workshops

2026 Workshops (Mostly in Bristol. London coming 2027)

  • October 17 Caring Kink: Pain and Pleasure

    What if the doors to more pleasure can also be found in playing with pain. In this workshop we create a safe, playful space to discover how pain and pleasure are part of the same spectrum of sensation. We will use blindfolds, impact, scratching, tickling... All to delight the mind and body with delicious anticipation and breathtakingly intensity.

  • Nov 21 Caring Kink: Transforming Shame (Into Sexy)

    What if your shame could be the most erotically powerful emotion for connection in your whole body? In this workshop we play with D/S dynamics, words, degredation and humiliation in consensual ways that use PLAY to transform toxic shame into arousal, joy and connection. This can change your whole life! Come and play with your shame.

  • December 5th: Winter 'Daytime Playtime Party'

    A 90 min workshop will help us all get on the same page to bring in care, consent and connection and lead into 4 hours of play across two differently themed rooms.

2027 Workshops, so far... (they are selling now!)

What people say about the workshops:
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Ethos and Background of Caring Kink

​I began running intimacy workshops in 2016 and I love bringing my passion for consensual play to people. After running more than 50 events we now have a community of thousands of people who can play this way.

Ultimately this work is about helping people to connect with thier PLAYFULNESS and PRESENCE with other people, in a light hearted and yet deep and delightfully devilish way. This is not trauma healing, S*x work, hook-up culutre or a kinky night club. This is a playful space to reconnect with your innocent and playful desires in a wholesome and caring way.

The work of Kink includes BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism) which is a lot of big scary words, I know. My mission is to remove the stigma and fear from these wonderful, playful and innocent practices and help people discover the benefits of a safe space to explore our shadows, edges and innocent playful desires.

Within the workshop we will always begin with meeting ourselves and each other, to settle our nervous systems and feel connected and safe. We will then work on knowing our 'no' and getting our clear consent practices in place. This is embodied work and my aim is to help people experience their bodies in the moment, so they know what they need and how to communicate it. I work hard to make a space where participants also feel enabled to communicate their needs. This is one of my strengths as a facilitator. I understand the importance and the challenge of this.

Once safety is established we can enjoy the joy of kinky play - things like impact play, rope play, breath play and dominance and submission. These activities we do in cooperation, stepping into and out of roles, but interlacing it all with CARE. We bring in care during everything we do, so that we can feel held and empowered even when we are engaging in acts of surrender.

Caring Kink principles:

  • C: Check in: at the start and throughout using pauses, squeezes and close attention. Aftercare includes check-ins too, and extends to the day or week after. Aftercare is for both partners.

  • A: Accidents happen: Roll with them. We treat mistakes as opportunities for connection and love, instead of blame and shame. This is a practice of:

  • R: Reconnect: Connection is the focus. When we notice we lose presence due to performance anxiety or something similar we slow down and pause and reconnect, following play, pleasure and love.

  • E: Encouraging each others truth: We encourage a clear 'no' by asking for it up front, and celebrating someone / ourselves when it's given. When someone expresses desires we celebrate them, even if it's not our cup of tea - never yucking someone else's yum's


I create sensual, (non s*xual) spaces for exploration of these CARE principles. However we are working with sexual energy and workshops will have differing boundaries on nudity and allowed interactions. Please read/ watch the testimonials and let me know if you have any questions.

"It felt safe and contained, all of Neil's teachings were clear and useful, the activities were fun, and there was a good balance between feeling safe and comfortable while also exploring slightly outside comfort zones. The space was lovely, the people were lovely, the music was lovely. More Workshops Please!" - Grace

CARING KINK CURRICULUM

6 Workshops to explore the full array of BDSM

Pain & Pleasure
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A focus on the SM of BDSM, with less emphasis on power play, but working in cooperation to explore:

  • Sensation Play

  • Psychology and Physically interconnections

  • Spanking exploration

  • Hair pulling, Biting

  • Primal Play

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Teasing & Tantalising

A focus on DS and SM aspects, building connection through anticipation and presence.

  • Erogenous Zone Mapping

  • Wax Play

  • Feathers

  • Begging play

A focus on DS elements specifically allows a deepening of polarity play.

  • Energetics of dominance and submission

  • Using eyes, words and touch

  • Breath Play

  • Role Play including pet / slave

Power Play of 'Dom and Sub'
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Tying & Holding

A focus on BD and DS elements, with an emphasis on connection instead of technical ropework.

  • Basic 'One Rope' Technique

  • Focus on Connection, Relaxation and Sensual Play

  • Ribbon Play: Giving and receiving gifts

  • Holding and aftercare

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Worship!

Focusing on Discipline and DS dynamics is, for me, enlivening and can build deep connection and reverence, alongside playfulness and surrender.

  • Getting into the mindset of worshiper and worshiped

  • Foot worship

  • Explore roles/dynamics of slave/mater or goddess/god and devotee.

  • Worship, Punishment and Reward

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Transforming Shame

To be liberated from our shame is to share and play with it. By exploring edgy degradation or humiliation acts we can find so much joy and pleasure, including:

  • Selling ourselves and letting ourselves be big and flamboyant

  • Expressing our little selves and being coddled and looked after

  • Different shame edges based on gender conditioning. Eg for men it may be emasculation / sissy play or for women it could be sl*tting about or removing the beauty mask.

  • Clothed and unclothed play ​- it can be very erotic to have one person clothed and the other nearly naked.

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Daytime Playtime Parties

This is a Caring Kink space for pants-on play. All are welcome and we will have space holding assistants on hand as we enjoy a full day of play, with:

  • Two rooms of play with different themes

  • Kinky furniture and soft areas

  • Dance floor

  • Chill out spaces and de-stimulation room for rest

  • 90 min workshop followed by 6 hours of play!

Teasing & Tantalising
Pain & Pleasure
Transforming Shame Into Sexy
Power Play of 'Dom and Sub'
Worship !
Tying & Holding
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Daytime Playtime

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Past Events

  • 2024: April 26th: Blindfolded Sensation Savouring

  • 2024: February 17th: Authentic Relating + Touch

  • 2024: January 27th: Caring Kink - Power Play of Dominance and Submission

  • 2023: November 18th: Caring Kink - Tying and Holding (With CR)

  • 2023: October 14th: Authentic Relating + Touch ​

  • 2023: September 30th: Caring Kink: Erogenous Zone Awakening (With CR)

  • 2023: September: Being Together Collaboration

  • 2023: July/August: Facilitator and Dungeon Guide at Touch and Play

  • 2023: July: Touch and dance workshops at Buddhafield

  • 2023: June Dance workshops at Emerging Hearts

  • 2023: March 25th: 11am- 5 pm: Cuddles and Consent

  • 2023: April 15th: 11am - 10pm: Kink: Teasing and Tantalizing (With CR)

  • 2023: May 14th: 11am - 5pm: Authentic Relating

  • 2023: June 24th: 10am - 10pm: Kink: Diving into Sub/Dom Dynamics (With CR)

  • 2023: March 4th: 10am-10pm: Caring Kink 2 (With CR)

  • 2023: January 4-5th: Caring Kink (With CR)

  • 2022: October: 2-Day Caring Kink (With CR)

  • 2022: September: Wild Connections

  • 2022: July: Facilitator and Dungeon Guide at Touch and Play

  • 2022: July: Touch and dance workshops at Buddhafield

  • 2022: June Dance workshops at Emerging Hearts

  • 2022: June 11th: Play Party Skills

  • 2022: May: Authentic Relating Multi-Week Adventure

  • 2022: May 15th: Awaken Your Senses

  • 2022: February: Platonic Pleasure

  • 2016: 14th February: Platonic Touch and Intimacy (This was my first touch event, then I went away and did some more learning before picking it up again post-pandemic)

Playful Desires

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